Is it Ok to be Sad?

During the week I realized I was sad or anxious and sometimes even ready to snap. As a Therapist and educator, I had to do some deep thinking on this. I'm trained in Humanistic psychology and Positive psychology and I was wondering, 'could I teach the study of happiness, if I wasn't always happy?'

What I learned this week: It's ok not to be happy everyday. Actually, it's quite normal. If I wasn't sad, angry or stressed out once in awhile, how would I know when it was time to make changes in my life?

Did I know why I was feeling sad or stressed out? What made me feel this way and what would I do about it? If you can figure out why you're feeling out of sorts then you can work on making a change and getting back to our happy selves.

We all have different selves which doesn't mean we have multiple personality disorder, it just means that we have different selves that we display at different times. Example: we all have a true self - the person we really are, our true selves. We don't always show this part of ourselves to everyone. We might have a few people who really know us but we keep our true self to the people closest to us.

We also have our false self - the person we want people to think we are. This "False self" is good for when we need to impress others and be on our best behavior like a job interview or a first date. It is not our full true selves because we are trying to impress. As time goes on and we build trust we becomes more of our true self.

Then we have our possible self - it's our future self, how we see ourselves in the future - maybe a future parent, future doctor, lawyer, therapist, teacher, etc. It's the part of ourself that we use to see ourselves in the future.  It motivates us to be the person we want to be.

We also have our dreaded self - the person we are afraid of becoming. I see this as a counselor. Clients coming to me afraid of becoming something they are not currently. Example: If a client's parents were abusive or substance abusers, they might be afraid they will turn into that type of person themselves. This dreaded self is important because it allows you to realize what you're afraid of and make a choice not to become that person.

So, never be afraid or mad at yourself for feeling stressed out, sad or even angry. Use it to your advantage. Becoming self-aware of what you're feeling, figure out why and then what action can you take NOW to change it.

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