“Train a child in the ways he should go, even when he is old he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6
Last night I made a beautiful connection with God. The feeling was a familiar and strong sense of self. I felt alive and happy tears effortlessly streamed down my face. I felt loved and I knew all was well. I closed my eyes, took deep breaths and pulled my consciousness into the present moment - that is where I found God. It was such a strong feeling of complete wellbeing. During that experience, I discovered a new perspective: Our emotions is a child.
First, let me say that my definition of God is a force that is unexplainable and unidentifiable. Its energy is a source of higher power that the human mind cannot fathom. The way I connect is through prayer meditations, moments of silence and stillness.
To see the body as a shell that our spirit inhabits like a hermit crab inhabits a seashell may help to put things into perspective. Keep this concept in mind as we discuss what it means to handle your emotions like a child.
If a child is nurtured well, they will mature into a well-rounded, stable and rational adult with good judgment. Well, our emotions need the same kind of structure. It needs to be shown how to behave, and the only person for the job is you. There have been times when my emotions tainted my better judgment, and I made decisions that were based on my feelings rather than what I knew was right. I realized that giving in to my emotions all the time would never lead to growth.
Growth is achieved by strengthening your resolve regardless of what your emotions want. This takes a great deal of will and patience just like disciplining a child. There will be times when your emotions will throw a temper tantrum of anger, hurt or fear - but if you remain steadfast in speaking and acting according to what you know is right, your emotions will begin to mature. You will notice the difference as your life begins to flourish. Happiness, health and wisdom will be the result of good “parenting”.
Emotions are preset by bias impulses learned from the environment in which you grew up. Now that you are an adult, you have to train your emotions according to your better judgment. When you choose that course of action, your path will always be clear and your decisions will lead to better outcomes. Remember that emotions are moldable. It’s like a rebellious child, and no matter how much it kicks and screams - eventually it will mature if you remain consistent.
Even though emotions can be unruly, do not try to control it because control is to oppress, and when you oppress something eventually it explodes. Instead, guide it toward better behavior by using positive words and actions during negative emotional episodes. Eventually, you will find that your emotions will become rational and peaceful in every situation that arise. This is the power that comes with teaching your “emotional child” how to behave. Always trust what you know, not what you feel - until your emotions fall into alignment.
The quote that I pulled from the book of Proverbs 22:6 seemed appropriate for this topic because when we try to fix everything all at once it can be overwhelming, but if we look at ourselves in pieces, solutions become more attainable. If we isolate our mind, our body, our emotions and deal with each aspect respectively, the journey towards becoming better versions of ourselves manifests.
In this case, when we take a step back and view our emotions as separate from ourselves and treat it like a child, we eliminate self-blame and are able to see it objectively. When we realize that we are not our emotions, we gain access to the power of deliberate creation. Train your “emotional child” in the ways that it should go and as it matures - so will you.