A little secret: I haven’t owned a scale for years. The way I measure my weight is to try on clothes (usually my trusted jeans) and see how far I can button them. Every now and then I do actually weigh myself when I am at the doctor or have a reason to take my sons to the doctor. When this happens, I strip down as much as decently possible before I move the slide ruler. And this is why I don’t own a scale; I would weigh myself constantly and become obsessive about the whole process.

Mirrors are another story. I have to keep them in the house. They are a piece of furniture and I can’t do much without them or escape the fact that they are a necessity. But they, too, can lead to obsessive checking and re-checking. That is why I refuse to get the hideous magnifying mirror for my bathroom – I already see more than I care to! I don’t need anything enlarged.

Mirrors and scales are a double-edged sword. Do we need them? Perhaps. As the saying goes, they’re just keeping it real, but in a harsh kind of way by forcing us to face ourselves with all of our imperfections. The real truth is this: what they can’t do is measure the essence of who we are on the inside. There is no slide ruler or digital number for that.

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One thing we can see in a mirror – our own smile shining brightly back at us. Next time you look in a mirror smile back and tell yourself how great you are. That is worth its weight in gold.

Melissa Kaplan Guarino delights in sharing her love of fashion with you. Check out Melissa’s blog – speakingoffashion.com.