1. To build a positive relationship with your child, you need to invest quality time in and provide attention to your child
2. Understand your child's interests, strengths, hobbies and dislikes. With this type of information, you can have fun with your child by finding activities they are interested in and enjoy. This also shows a respect for the child's interests. It shows that the parent is concerned with their child's interests. It allows for freedom for the child to grow. It allows for the child to develop independence, their own opinions, thoughts and interests. It helps them develop a sense of self and their own identity. This will help build up their self-esteem.
3. Say "I love you" to your child everyday, no matter their age. Especially on trying days when you might not feel like saying it. This will help develop and strengthen the relationship.
4. For young kids, having a bedtime ritual will mean a lot to the child. It will be a time that the child can look forward to for one-on-one time. This can be a time for reading a book together, playing a game, doing a puzzle, etc. This ritual can stay straight thru until they're teenagers. I have had teenagers tell me they still enjoy playing cards or doing a puzzle with their parents before bed, they look forward to it. This ritual helps form a good connection between the parent and child.
5. Let your kids help you with daily activities like going food shopping, writing the food list, cooking, gardening, etc. This is bonding time.
6. Dinner time - eat meals together as much as possible. These meals should with no external noises such as TV, Radio, Computers, cell phones, etc. This should be the time when everyone gets to discuss their day and really listen to each other. It's a great way to reconnect. It's quality time.
7. Set special times that are "Family time" - days that are set aside just for family. Also, set aside special time with each child. Every child wants to feel special and by spending one-on-one time with each child, it will allow the child to have that special quality time. The family should plan the activities.
8. Respect - as children get older, they start making their own choices. We as parents need to learn to respect most of their choices. We might not like their choice in clothing or music but if we don't allow them to make their own decisions then we hinder their independence and growth. It's a natural part of their development process to want to grow, learn and make decisions on their own. Try to be supportive of their decisions/choices.