Divorce Done Well.

October 18, 2013

Keeping health insurance coverage can often be a primary reason why couples choose NOT to get divorced.  One spouse does not want to leave the other spouse high and dry with no insurance coverage, especially if the spouse has a pre-existing condition. What does the Affordable Care Act, aka ...

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Most divorcing parents are worried about how to make sure that their kids will thrive during a divorce. On Tuesday, September 24, Westfield Mediation, LLC and Open Door Therapy are offering a free presentation for parents to address this important issue. The program will be held at Westfield ...

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Divorce is the solution to a problem, not the problem itself.  The problem is you are in an unhappy marriage and no longer want to be.  The solution is to no longer be married to this person and move on with your life.  The divorce is the process you need to go through to resolve your problem.  ...

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Should I stay or should I go?”- The Clash “In the final analysis it is not what you do for your children but what you have taught them to do for themselves that will make them successful human beings.”- Ann Landers So the real question when it comes to divorce is, “is it better for ...

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Is the divorce rate really 50%? How many of your friends and family are divorced?   Is it every other marriage?  Not for me. In my children’s class at school, half the class is not from a divorced family.  On my block no one is divorced.  So how come we keep hearing that one in two marriages end ...

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A lot of people, myself included, get their information about various subjects (what is this “new math” on my kid’s homework sheet or how to treat a sprained calf muscle) from the internet.  But not all information you glean applies to all situations.  For example, as divorce mediators, we often ...

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When it comes to getting a divorce, do not DIY it. Most divorcing people actually agree on most issues, but it is best to use some professional help to develop your divorce agreement. A professional divorce mediator can ensure that you are covering the many issues in an efficient and ...

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One surprising fact you may learn from your divorce mediator is that you can decide who claims your children as dependents on a tax return. It is not necessarily automatically the custodial parent. This is a financial aspect of your divorce that many people overlook.  If you try to divorce on ...

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Are your worried about how your divorce will affect your children?  Are you already divorced but still fighting with your ex-spouse?  Studies have repeatedly shown that divorce in itself does not negatively affect your children, but high conflict divorce can be bad for your child.  I recently ...

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Valentine’s Day may be a good time to take stock of your relationship. Sometimes, the thought of having to spend days like Valentine’s Day without a partner keeps people together even though they are in unhappy couplings.  While no relationship is chockfull of chocolate kisses and red roses ...

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Will the fiscal cliff changes affect your child support payments?  As divorce mediators, we can tell you -- the short answer is probably, but not quite yet.  And having a clear support agreement in place will minimize any potential problems.  You may have already seen changes to your take ...

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How does divorce mediation work when you don’t even want to be in the same room as your soon-to-be ex-spouse?  Mediators have specific skill sets to get people to communicate who can’t stand each other so they can make important life-altering decisions.   A mediator can take some of the drama ...

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It seems a little counterintuitive for a marriage therapist to be a divorce mediator.  Aren’t therapists there to save a marriage? So how does one trained to help couples change their dysfunction into a satisfying relationship end up supporting couples splitting up?  For a while I ran a ...

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