You know when you're lecturing. You can see it on your child's face… or in the eye-rolling… or in the sigh. But you keep going because now they're being disrespectful and you're going to make your point if it's the last thing you do!
You've lost this round, in more ways than one. You're frustrated and they've mentally checked out. Whatever lesson you're trying to teach is now out the window. Nagging doesn't teach responsibility, it teaches your child to avoid you and all the things you want him to do.
With teens, and most people, less is more. Say it in a word or two... Your laundry. Be home by 11:00. No phones at the table.
Message delivered. Time to move on.
Fern Weis is a parent coach, specializing in supporting parents of teens and young adults who are going through difficult situations (including underachieving, disrespectful behavior, addiction recovery and more). With parent-centered coaching, Fern helps parents release guilt, end enabling, and confidently prepare their children to thrive through life’s challenges. Learn more about coaching and workshops at www.fernweis.com or www.familyrecoverypartners.com.
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