Grief is hard. Handling grieving when you have kids is harder. Here are some tips for managing: 

* Get counseling. Grieving is difficult and stressful, and it’s doubly hard if you also have children. A grief counselor can help you develop the emotional skills you need to cope with your situation. 

* Be honest with your kids. Sometimes, adults try to hide difficult news from children; however, kids are extremely perceptive, and they know when something is wrong. Be honest with your children. Tell them that you are sad because you lost someone important. Let them know that it will take a while, but you will be less sad in time. In the meantime, your love for them continues. 

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* Get a counselor for your children. If they are in mourning too, a grief counselor can help them understand what’s happening and build the emotional skills to work through their grief. A grief counselor can also help your children understand why you aren’t your usual self-right now. 

* Remember together. Talk to your kids about the deceased. Share stories and look at pictures together. If the session ends in tears, that’s ok. Sharing your feelings with each other is healing. 

* Let some of your standards go. Grief is exhausting. While you are hurting, it’s ok to let your kids watch tv, or feed them pizza for dinner for a few nights. Let the house get a little messy. It will be ok in time.  

* Depend on your village. If you have friends and family who can help with the kids, call them in. If someone asks if they can help, say yes. If you are able to, consider paying for extra help, such as babysitting, housecleaning, or ready meals. 

* Take moments to love your kids. Go ahead, scoop them up and give them a big hug (even the teens). As long as there’s love, you are going to be ok.  

Join us for our next edition, as we take a look at how to support someone who is grieving.