Conversations with Joan Herrmann

May 29, 2020

Memorial Day weekend, for many, signifies the unofficial start to summer. Last weekend as I was sitting in my backyard looking at my swimming pool, I began to think about how I felt two years ago when I was able to make a dream a reality. Two years ago, friends and family had to listen to me ...

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Do you ever feel like there is no end to the problems that you face? Do your challenges seem too great to overcome? Do you ever ask yourself, “What’s the point?” Do you allow your circumstances to govern your life to the point of making you sad, lonely, and depressed? If you answered “yes” to ...

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A few months ago I was having dinner with a group of women when one of the ladies remarked, “My ex-husband’s new girlfriend is a demanding bitch and he’s jumping through hoops for her.” I joined in with the group’s resounding “halleluja … amen sister!,” but when the evening ended and after I ...

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This morning I was perusing a toy catalog, shopping for a gift for a friend’s child, when I stumbled upon an item that brought hours of enjoyment to my children. It’s a square box that has different shapes cut out into each side with accompanying matching pieces. The goal of the toy is for children ...

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The number of people working from home, coupled with technology that offers immediate communication, is creating a dangerous work environment in which people are expected to be available 24 hours a day, seven days a week. These expectations can wreak havoc on a person’s physical and emotional ...

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Do you allow fear to stop you dead in your tracks whenever you think about trying something new? Does that voice in your head conjure up a list of reasons to be inactive, why you shouldn’t try to accomplish a goal? For most of my life, I was that person, too afraid to take a chance, ...

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I recently made a presentation in which I talked about the importance of eliminating negative voices – our own and those from external sources. I explained there are many people, for whatever reason, consciously or unconsciously, who will say things that can have a detrimental impact one’s ...

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With the coronavirus outbreak, social distancing restrictions have been put in place. But social distancing does not have to mean socially disconnecting. Before coronavirus concerns, one in four older adults were affected by social isolation. Now, with limits on public gatherings and guidance on ...

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Every day we are bombarded with information about the coronavirus outbreak. Doctors and other healthcare providers share tips to help us stay healthy, and we are even taught the proper way to wash our hands. While personal health and hygiene are of the utmost importance, perhaps equally important ...

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There are very real challenges facing our world today. A pandemic, financial concerns, isolation, and health issues can create anxiety and fear. When the news is all doom and gloom, it’s hard for even the most optimistic among us to stay positive, but that is exactly what we must do! Just at a ...

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This morning, I received a phone call from a business colleague with whom I have forged a friendship. During the call, she informed me about her recent illness and shared the challenges that she endured. After hearing about her suffering and subsequent recovery, I said, “Oh honey, I’m so happy that ...

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Recently, I was in conversation with a group of people and during that time I shared some exciting professional news. After hearing what I said, one woman rolled her eyes and remarked sarcastically, “You are so lucky … everything always happens for you and is so easy!” I looked at this person, ...

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One of the questions that I am often asked is how to permanently end a relationship with someone that is a negative force in a person’s life. I have heard many terms to describe these types of people, but one of my favorites is energy vampire, because they zap the life out of you. A relationship ...

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When I was a young girl, like many other girls, I dreamed about what my life would be like. College … career … marriage … children … a house … a dog … and a big, loving family surrounding me. That was my dream. While some of it came true, many of my expectations were shattered, and my life didn’t ...

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Every sappy romantic can recall that moment in the movie, Love Story, when, after an argument, Oliver told Jenny he was sorry and through her tears she quivered and replied, “Don’t … love means never having to say you’re sorry”. Anyone who has ever been in a loving relationship understands the ...

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To have a friend and be a friend is what makes life worthwhile. ~Unknown February is the month of the heart, the time when we celebrate love. We buy chocolate, flowers, jewelry, and greeting cards to profess our undying love to that special someone. But, in all the hoopla of the season, perhaps ...

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­ I was watching television recently when it happened … I saw the first commercial for the Valentine’s Day diamond collection – you know, the gift that every woman will treasure. As I listened to the music and watched as the camera panned the romantic setting, waves of emotion overcame me like a ...

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Did you know that you have 60,000 to 70,000 thoughts per day and that approximately 85 percent of those thoughts are negative AND 90 percent of those thoughts are the same thoughts you had the day before? The same thoughts equal the same choices, the same choices equal the same behavior, the ...

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I recently heard about the passing of a man to whom I was introduced when I had just created the Change Your Attitude … Change Your Life brand. I was unsure about how I would proceed. He had media experience and professional contacts and offered advice and support. He even introduced me to a few ...

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What the new year brings to you will depend a great deal on what you bring to the new year. ~Vern McLellan We’re now a few weeks into a new year and as is tradition, we use this time as an opportunity to reflect on our life and set new goals. I’m sure you have seen this Brad Paisley quotation ...

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You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection. ~ Buddah A few weeks ago I was invited to be the keynote speaker for a divorce recovery group. As I was getting ready to go on, the moderator opened the event by playing the Bruno Mars hit, Just the Way You ...

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In the depth of winter, I finally learned that there was in me an invincible summer. ~ Albert Camus Happy New Year! As another new year begins, I have spent hours pondering what I want my first message to be, as it sets the tone for the year ahead. As I reflected on 2019, and all the ...

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Have you ever experienced times when life seemed so hopeless that you felt like you were in a deep, dark hole and no matter how hard you tried or what you did, you couldn’t climb out? I have. I have actually spent a great deal of time in my hole. Being in that hole is the scariest feeling ...

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Don’t ask yourself why people keep hurting you, rather ask yourself why you’re allowing it to happen. Are you a giver? I am. I’ll do anything possible for anyone, anytime. I have spent most of my life taking care of others, putting myself second, and sometimes, third, fourth or fifth. After many ...

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Does this sound familiar? You’re having a particularly stressful day and someone does something that you perceive to go against your belief or what you are trying to accomplish. Rather than finding out the facts or taking time to cool off, you immediately pick up the phone and call the person or ...

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This time of year, from Thanksgiving through the New Year celebration, is a season that provides for us the opportunity to stop our busy lives for a moment and give thanks for our many gifts and blessings; it’s a time of birth and renewal. No matter what your religion or belief structure, it’s a ...

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For the past few weeks, I have been the recipient of repeated hurtful actions and when I communicated my feelings with each perpetrator, the same response was offered, “It wasn’t my intention.” The frequency and flippancy of this explanation has gotten me to thinking about accountability, and ...

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This past August marked the seventh anniversary of my divorce. Growing up, just like most people, when I envisioned marriage, I saw the “they lived happily ever after” ending. Divorce was not in my frame of reference. My parents were married 56 years at the time of my father’s passing, and my ...

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How we feel about ourselves dictates the way we live life. It impacts the way we approach just about every thing we do. Yet, sadly, many people struggle to believe in their worth and abilities. Throughout my life, my levels of self-confidence have ebbed and flowed. Growing up I was an overweight ...

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Fear is one of the most powerful forces in life. It affects the decisions we make and the actions we take. And while the primary role of fear is to keep us safe, it often becomes the obstacle that stands between us and our dreams and goals. There are rational fears, the ones that are based in ...

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