Joan works with many leaders in the field of self-help/self improvement. She recently spoke with Miguel Ángel Ruiz Macías, better known as Don Miguel Ruiz, a Mexican author of Toltec spiritualist and neoshamanistic texts. The Toltec Tradition is a philosophy that encourages a person to develop a profound connection to their inherent wisdom.
Q. What did Don Miguel Ruiz tell you about how we can discover the power within?
Joan: Don Miguel Ruiz is an author whose work has had a profound impact on my life. His book, The Four Agreements, taught me a new way to approach life. His agreements - be impeccable with your word, don't take anything personally, don't make assumptions, and always do your best – helped me free myself from beliefs that created limitations in my life.
He has a new book that was just released, The Three Questions, and in it he offers three questions that he believes drive our lives and govern our spiritual power. According to don Miguel, these questions provide a path that can help us overcome fear and discover peace of mind and true happiness.
Q. What are the three questions?
Joan: The first question is: Who am I? Don Miguel believes that we have ideas about ourselves that may not be true and that “our instinct is to cling to the picture we have of ourselves, which makes any new discoveries impossible.” He says that in order for us to learn who we truly are, we must understand who we are not. Once we know who we are not, we get a clearer understanding of who we are.
The second question is: What is real? According to Don Miguel, many of us see ourselves as a product of life or a victim of circumstance. By asking what is real, we challenge what we think we know. To know what is real, we must recognize what is not. When we do this, we question what we believe and our sense of reality starts to shift.
The third question is: What is love? Don Miguel believes that this may be the most important question we can ask. He contends that what most of us call love is the opposite of love because we love with conditions. He says that when we learn to love without conditions is when we can experience deep, meaningful love of self and others. If we love what love is not, then we can see what love really is.
Q. How can these three questions change our life?
Joan: According to Don Miguel, when we know who we are, when we recognize our reality, and when we love ourself and others without conditions, we live in peace.
Q. What does he believe true peace is?
Joan: When we respect ourself 100 percent and do not allow anyone to disrespect us. We don’t try to control others and do not allow ourselves to be controlled. He added that living in peace keeps the fast paced world, the hurricane as he referenced it, around us. We live in the center, the eye, where it is calm and peaceful.