I am overwhelmed lately. I feel like I just can’t keep up with myself, my husband, my job, my kids etc. I’m ready to just get in the car and drive south—ALONE. Can you help?
Dear Last Straw,
I HEAR you! I really do. How you’re feeling is okay. We all get to a place in our lives sometimes when we want to just quit. This is a GOOD thing! What this means is that something has to change! Many things have to change—because the old way of doing things isn’t working anymore.
So listen to yourself. Ask yourself, "What needs to happen TODAY that would bring me some relief? Is it a phone call to my mother telling her how I feel about something that’s been bothering me? Is it a conversation with my kids about how we could get along better? Is it me taking some personal time maybe for the weekend away somewhere? Is it starting and ending my day differently?"
Take an hour to yourself today and sit quietly somewhere with a pen and paper. Write a list of everything that you need to take care of this week. Then, on the other side of the paper, write down all of the things that you could ask other people in your life to help you with.
Funny thing about people is they need help, but they rarely ask for it. I’m sure that there are people in your life that want to help you. You just haven’t asked them.
Then, on another sheet of paper, write down all of the things that bring you joy. Ex. running, taking hot showers, painting, cooking, watching The Real Housewives, walking on the beach, getting your nails done, beading, tennis. Do at least two of those things on your list today. Watch and see the immediate results of doing them.
Sometimes we forget what makes us feel better. Remembering those things and doing those things brings us relief.
You may also decide that you want to seek therapy or a coach of some kind. Having people like that in your life help you to become more accountable.
I hope this helps you. Remember, you are stronger than you think. Listen to your body. Give it what it wants. We all need to take a break sometimes and reconfigure what’s not effective in our life. Change is good.
All the very best,