I have been really stressed and struggling a lot emotionally since the pandemic started. I am a married woman with two young kids. My husband works a lot of hours, and I am with the kids from morning until bedtime most days. I feel like I’m snapping at the kids all day long. I wake up tired; and to be honest, most days I just feel like a repeat of the day before.
I know that must people are probably feeling the same way, but do you have any advice on how to feel better? I miss being happy.
Dear Stressed Mom,
Thank you for all that you are doing! Has anyone thanked you lately? You have the hardest job right now. Staying home and managing the home and the kids is a HUGE responsibility. But even the strongest people need a break.
I want to suggest to you two things that I know will help you to feel better. Have a conversation with your husband and let him know that two nights a week you would like to take time for yourself. Let him know that he should take two nights also for himself. It’s the best thing for your marriage.
Knowing that you have alone time blocked off for yourself gives you relief. My husband and I have been doing this for years, and it’s a game changer. You may decide to get a massage, or get a pedicure, or have dinner with a friend, work out, listen to a podcast in your car, read, whatever you want. A mom that works as hard as you do deserves time to recover.
Trust me, the kids will appreciate it too. They will enjoy alone time with Dad a few nights a week.
One more thing I would recommend is meditation. Before you get out of bed to start your day try and get at least 10 minutes of meditation in. It will help to clear your mind and put you in a more relaxed mood for your day. Think of three things that you are grateful for after your meditation. You deserve to give yourself this time.
Again, thank you for all that you do.
All the very best,