MILLBURN, NJ – With Mother’s Day coming this Sunday, there will be some good opportunities to take family photos, but according to Short Hills-based professional photographer Mallika Malhotra of Mikifoto, far too many moms insist on being behind the camera instead of in front of it.

“Mothers always seem to have an excuse. My hair’s a mess.  My outfit is wrong. After I lose a few pounds,” she said.  “As a portrait photographer, I see this hesitancy all the time.  Mother’s Day should be a day, even if it’s the only day all year, that families insist that Mom get into the photos.”

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Malhotra sees many moms quick to take out their smartphones and snap pictures of their kids, but fears that in many families, moms are disappearing from the family albums. 

“The relationship is the thing you should want to document.  Don’t be so hard on yourself,” she said.  To make being in the picture easier to handle, she suggests having photos taken when engaging in activity – playing with the kids, tickling them, singing, hugging.

“You never look better than when you are loving your kids, so have someone else take that shot.” Malhotra notes that in the years to come, “Your kids will want to see you!”

“It’s about letting go for a moment.  Celebrate being a mother.  Get in the picture with your kids…and print it,” she urges.  “Even in this digital age, printed photos bring a lot of joy; holding a photo, or turning the pages of an album.”  The prints also give you something to pass down to your children later.

“In 10 or 20 years, the kids will not look at these photos and see your flaws.  They will see the memory of the day and how much you loved them, or notice how your smiles look so similar,” she said.  “I promise you’ll look back and be amazed at how young you once were.”

She also suggests framing one, or putting an album together, as the perfect Mother’s Day gift from a husband.  If the opportunity for a multi-generational photo presents itself at larger family gatherings, be sure to take advantage of it. 

Mallika Malhotra specializes in creative portraits of children, family and high school seniors.  She may be reached at