Health & Wellness

Letters to the Editor

The Antidote to Bullying is Confidence, Resiliency and a Culture of Inclusion

c7c8685f4cb99d5d063b_40394d5576d5f38de484_carousel_image_453b811cf0aa4cb6de0e_stop_bullying._seriously__just_stop.jpg
c7c8685f4cb99d5d063b_40394d5576d5f38de484_carousel_image_453b811cf0aa4cb6de0e_stop_bullying._seriously__just_stop.jpg

October is National Bullying Prevention Month

New Jersey communities are reducing bullying through a shift in school culture that empowers children and addresses the underlying issues that lead to the behavior.

“No matter where you look, you’ll find incidents of bullying, but it’s less likely to be tolerated when you have a culture where that behavior is not accepted,’’ said Mary Vineis, NewBridge Services’ director of Community Response and Education. “Kids have become more willing to take a stand, and to bring it to adults’ attention.

Sign Up for E-News

NewBridge, a nonprofit provider of counseling, housing and educational programs, works in eight school districts and a Morristown charter school to teach students skills to be resilient and to promote a culture of acceptance. 

The United Way of Northern New Jersey and the College of Saint Elizabeth in 2014 selected NewBridge to provide mental health services to students and staff in communities hard-hit by Hurricane Sandy. A three-year grant from the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation allowed the United Way and the College of Saint Elizabeth to expand the School Culture and Climate Initiative.

“Often, what appears to be bullying is actually kids trying to solve conflicts without having the skills to do it,’’ Vineis said.  “Adults need to teach kids tools to effectively resolve conflict.”

Bullying can scar deeply, affecting children into adulthood, Vineis said. Studies also show that children who bully are more likely to have problems holding down a job, struggle in relationships, become dependent on alcohol or drugs, and get in trouble with the law, Vineis said.

One of the most important approaches for schools is to implement rules that delineate acts of bullying and the consequences of those acts. In some high schools, students don’t engage in bullying for fear of being “HIBed,’’ a slang term for being cited under the state’s Harassment, Intimidation and Bullying law, Vineis said.

StopBullying.gov offers these warning signs that a child is being bullied, or doing the bullying:

Signs of a child being bullied:

    •    Unexplainable injuries

    •    Lost or destroyed clothing, books, electronics, or jewelry

    •    Frequent headaches or stomach aches, feeling sick or faking illness

    •    Changes in eating habits, like suddenly skipping meals or binge eating. Kids may come home from school hungry because they did not eat lunch.

    •    Difficulty sleeping or frequent nightmares

    •    Declining grades, loss of interest in schoolwork, or not wanting to go to school

    •    Sudden loss of friends or avoidance of social situations

    •    Feelings of helplessness or decreased self esteem

    •    Self-destructive behaviors such as running away from home, harming themselves, or talking about suicide

Signs that a child is bullying others:   

    •    Gets into physical or verbal fights

    •    Has friends who bully others

    •    Is increasingly aggressive

    •    Gets sent to the principal’s office or to detention frequently

    •    Has unexplained extra money or new belongings

    •    Blames others for their problems

    •    Doesn’t accept responsibility for their actions

    •    Is competitive and worry about their reputation or popularity

During National Bullying Prevention Month, NewBridge urges everyone to take a stand against bullying.

The opinions expressed herein are the writer's alone, and do not reflect the opinions of TAPinto.net or anyone who works for TAPinto.net. TAPinto.net is not responsible for the accuracy of any of the information supplied by the writer. Click here to submit a Letter to the Editor.

The opinions expressed herein are the writer's alone, and do not reflect the opinions of TAPinto.net or anyone who works for TAPinto.net. TAPinto.net is not responsible for the accuracy of any of the information supplied by the writer. Click here to submit a Letter to the Editor.

TAP Into Another Town's News:

You May Also Be Interested In

Sign Up for E-News

Millburn/Short Hills

Millburn Recreation Accepting Memberships for Pool, Tennis and Golf

February 19, 2018

MILLBURN, NJ - The Millburn Township Recreation Department announced that it is accepting memberships for the township pool, tennis and golf facilities. The memberships are available to all Millburn Township residents and the applications are available online.

The membership application can be accessed at http://www.twp.millburn.nj.us/DocumentCenter/View/3258 or go ...

Letter to the Editor: New Jersey’s Out-of-Network Bill is a Huge Blow to the Middle-Class

April 8, 2018

As Trenton currently looks to balance the budget, once again it’s our state’s hardest working citizens who will be left holding the bag. This time, though, it will be the hardworking office and ancillary staff from our small business private medical practices.  A bill called “The Out-of-Network Consumer Protection Bill” A-2039/S-485 looks poised to make ...

Upcoming Events

Carousel_image_a94209220b7af2f9b4b9_7ba9f48b6accba8b6e72_29354610_1585682268146667_4091748840029675392_o-2

Thu, April 26, 11:00 AM

Bow Tie Cinema , Millburn

Encore Presentation of the 2018 Millburn Film Fest

Carousel_image_796236dd7f1f30c2102d_mail_attachment

Thu, April 26, 6:30 PM

Millburn High School Gym, Millburn

Millburn Art Celebration Thrusday: “Millburn ...

Carousel_image_4f4a965f87cea6c2c98d_304355486b5262e58a28_picture1

Fri, April 27, 6:00 PM

Millburn Township Fire HQ, Millburn

Millburn Firefighters Host Cook-off for Brain ...

Carousel_image_d7fe4e7419407abe52b3_c0e7c42c751f9d064b24_img_2356

Fri, April 27, 7:00 PM

Millburn Middle School, Millburn

MMS: Shrek The Musical

Vote for Millburn's Own Powdered Elephants "Monster" Today

April 25, 2018

Vote for Millburn's Own Powdered Elephants "Monster" Today

GO NOW AND VOTE ONLINE! http://shoutdowndrugs.com/contestants/profile/303/

This is the last day to help Millburn students by voting for the drug-prevention song written by three of our high school juniors, Kyle Farscht, Danielle Benna, & Jessica Yeager. You can vote as often as you like. Voting ends April ...

Millburn Recreation Pool, Golf & Tennis Memberships

The Millburn Recreation Department is accepting Online and mail in registration for Pool, Golf & Tennis memberships.  Registrations are restricted to Township residents except for a limited number of employed in town and non-resident memberships for the Par 3 Golf Course.  Those who register for the pool by May 1st are provided six free pool guest passes per family or 3 free pool ...

Millburn Firefighters Host Cook-off to Benefit Opportunity Project

Millburn Firefighters Host Cook-off for Brain Injury 

The Millburn Police Department accepted the challenge made by the Millburn Fire Department to cook the ultimate slider in a Cook-off to raise funds for Opportunity Project, a local non-profit that assists individuals recovering from brain injury. 

 Firefighter Dave Hammond, who has taken home the prize in various cooking ...