EAST BRUNSWICK, NJ - There are expensive, sentimental holidays like Christmas and Mother's Day.  There are silly and fun holidays like Halloween and St. Patrick's Day.  Then there are the high-pressure holidays that include New Year's Eve and, the worst, St. Valentine's Day.  St. Valentine's day is as commercialized as anything else we celebrate here in America, but that overselling is not the complaint here.  It's the pressure.  When you get to be an OMP, it's even worse.

An OMP (Old Married Person) has been celebrating St. Val's with the same person for at least the past 5 years.  Yeah, we have gone through the Valentine's proposal (good idea, not original, but good, ) the chocolates delivered to the office, the flowers hurriedly picked up at Shop-Rite on the way home, yadda, yadda, yadda, as Jerry Seinfeld would say.

We even hid behind our children for a number of years, selecting various timely "valentimes" to address to every kid in the class, a Snoopy valentine for the teacher, heart-shaped sandwiches in lunchboxes.  It was a clever diversion away from the whole Mom and Dad valentine thing.  It took the heat off the pressure.  We went back to over-parenting where were were much more comfortable.