MONTVILLE, NJ - The first question to be contemplated by the members of the Montville Believe, Inspire, Grow (B.I.G.) women's entrepreneurial group at their meeting on March 3 was, "What is your personal or business self-sabotage?" Over the course of the meeting, the founder of FINE to FAB Lisa Lieberman-Wang discussed how to use her seven secrets to fab in order to overcome self-sabotage.
"When I talk about self-sabotage, I've seen that people use different things to hurt themselves, whether it's procrastination, food, alcohol or spending," Lieberman-Wang explained. "We find ways to avoid pain and we will do more to avoid pain then to gain pleasure, but it can be painful trying to avoid pain."
Lieberman-Wang talked about how when she was growing up, she did everything in her power to be perfect, to no avail because she didn't know there was no such thing as perfect. Since then, she's spent 22 years focusing on teaching people how to build themselves up so they can go do what they want to do without sabotaging themselves. She developed the seven secrets to fab to help people overcome self-sabotage.
"Our unconscious mind rules our thinking and 55% of our beliefs are formed by the time we are 5 years old by well meaning parents and guardians," Lieberman-Wang said. For example, she explained how we are programmed from an early age that the word 'no' has a negative association. As a result, as adults we may try to do anything to avoid hearing the word 'no' in business or in our personal lives because that could mean rejection or disappointment.
Lieberman-Wang led the group in many interactive exercises to work through her seven secrets to fab, which are:
- Acknowledge fear and doubt
- Take inventory of life lessons and beliefs
- Break through toxic emotions and meanings
- Break the trance
- Uncover unconscious patterns of behavior
- Stop waiting for perfection
- Make peace, practice gratitude and celebrate
"The basic thing we all need is love, but we'll settle for connection. The sabotage comes in when we don't get connection and love," Lieberman-Wang said. "You need to get to the point of getting rid of these negative thoughts and understanding that your unconscious mind runs your attitudes, motivation, values and beliefs. Your actions come from your conscious mind."
Yudy Bueno spoke during the meeting as a former client, and now good friend, of Lieberman-Wang's stating that she didn't think she needed the program. She originally sought out the program to help with her relationship with her teenage daughter. "I went into the program and honestly it's the best thing that ever happened to me," Bueno said. "Today I'm happier, healthier, lost weight and increased my self confidence. If you want to have a healthy life, you need to deal with the negative things in it."
"Stop trying to please everybody else or worry about what's right or wrong and instead learn to please yourself," Lieberman-Wang concluded. "In return you'll end up gaining the secret, which is learning how to live your authentic life happy, healthy and free."
The next Montville B.I.G. meeting is on Thursday, April 7 at 10:30 a.m. at The Montville Inn where speaker Rupa Kale will be sharing how to harness the power of Social Media to promote your business.
About Lisa Lieberman-Wang CEO, Founder of FINE to FAB
Lisa is the author of the #1 internationally bestselling book FINE to FAB. Lisa is a breakthrough expert and the creator of the cutting edge neuroscience: Neuro Associative Programming “NAP”. She created NAP for you to be able to heal in a short period of time, avoiding years of therapy with a proven model to breakthrough whatever is weighing you down. Using this technology she has helped thousands of people overcome lifelong emotional challenges of depression, anxiety, stress, self-sabotage, emotional eating, shopping, sexual abuse and co-dependency with her proven 7 Secrets to FAB. To learn more about Lisa and Fine to Fab, visit her website at www.finetofab.com.
About B.I.G. (Believe, Inspire, Grow) (www.believeinspiregrow.com)
Believe, Inspire, Grow offers a visionary path for women entrepreneurs. It is a rapidly growing business support, education and networking organization for women. B.I.G. is comprised of a large community of more than 1,500 intelligent, creative and entrepreneurial women who want to share their business ideas and build upon their professional dreams. The organization offers more than 50 local community meetings each month across five states, ongoing regional networking events, as well as an interactive and informative website.