Here is an adaptation of ”Twas the Night before Christmas” written by our Program Director, Mandi Zucker. We at Imagine, A Center for Coping with Loss think it beautifully captures some of the feelings a child may experience after the death of a parent, how children and siblings grieve differently, and how especially difficult it can by at holiday time for children grieving a loss.
‘Twas the Night Before Christmas for Grieving Children and their Friends
Adapted by Mandi Zucker
‘Twas the night before Christmas, when all through the house,
I sat in my room crying, quiet as a mouse.
The stockings were hung by the chimney with care,
But I hated to see them hanging right there.
My dad had died while asleep in his bed
Visions of funerals and cemeteries in my head.
Mamma tried to dress the house with lots of Christmas clutter,
And I couldn’t calm down, my heart in a flutter.
I didn’t want Christmas this year; no presents, no cash
My dad was gone and life changed in a flash.
My sister was different, full of holiday cheer,
Wanting everything the same and family near.
But I want to skip it, no eight reindeer.
I just want my dad to re-appear.
I wanted to yell for all the world to hear,
Let me have my feelings even at this time of year!
I want to be angry. I want to be sad.
And sometimes I laugh and want to be glad.
I’m confused and embarrassed. Lonely and scared.
I want to talk about all the memories we shared.
So be a good friend to me this season,
Let me share my feelings and all of my reasons.
The holidays are different, they’ll never be the same,
So follow my lead. You’ll be the best present that came.