Dorothy (Blanche) Shupe Abouchar

Oct 14, 1934 - Jan 6, 2019

“Dottie,” as she was known to her friends, “Skip” to her closest relatives, was born on October 14, 1934 and split her childhood between Philadelphia, PA, Ocean City, NJ, and Long Island, NY. She most recently resided in Redding, CT, after 40 years in New Providence, NJ.

She attended Ocean City, NJ schools and graduated high school from the Cathedral School of Saint Mary in Garden City, NY and the University of Connecticut (School of Physical Therapy) in Storrs, CT. Her favorite occupation was working at the British Book Centre in New York City with Captain Robert Maxwell and Jose Randolph in the ‘50s where she met many interesting people, writers and readers alike. It was during this period that she met her husband of 48 years, Richard Charles Abouchar.

Besides Richard, she loved gardening, travel, books, a clean house, Yankees baseball, As Time Goes By (and anything with Dame Judi Dench), war movies, pickles, pretzels, playing the piano, her vacuum cleaner, red wine with ice cubes, the beach, a well-manicured lawn, tennis, NY Times crossword puzzles, walking and footwear removed at the door.

In her youth, Dottie was a standout athlete/scholar and earned the Fathers’ Club Award at St. Mary’s. For many years she was a sales representative and indefatigable office manager at the family business, J. Abouchar and Sons in NYC. She inspired her husband to stop taking the 8:07 a.m. train in favor of the 6:30 a.m. departure to get a jump on the work day and show some passion.

She once accidentally burned down an oak tree trying to remove a hornets’ nest with gasoline and a match. To her family’s amazement, but not hers, the fire department asked not a single question when they removed the tree that straddled Acorn Drive and did not charge a single cent, leading some to wonder if this had been her plan all along.

Dottie was predeceased by her husband of 48 years, Richard Charles Abouchar, and her parents, Lewis R. Shupe Jr. and Dorothy (Devona) McNeil Shupe. She is survived by her brother, Lewis R. Shupe III (Caryl Shupe) of Ocean City, NJ, son Keith Abouchar (Jane Sung) of Arlington, VA, daughter Allison Abouchar Cross (Jeff Cross) of Wilton, CT, and grandchildren Adele Abouchar, Henry Abouchar, Justin Cross and Ryan Cross, and many nieces and nephews.

Dottie will be remembered for her interest in others before herself, unpretentiousness, originality, honesty and earthy sense of humor, characteristics that are by now apparent to readers of this tribute.

Dottie’s family would like to thank the residents and staff at Meadow Ridge who made her feel at home in Connecticut the past 11 years (although she always missed New Jersey!), Dr. Priya Iyer, and the team at Home Instead Senior Care.

Services will be held privately in Chatham, NJ and Ocean City, NJ. She will be interred with her husband in Chatham. Arrangements were handled by Bouton Funeral Service, Georgetown, CT.

In lieu of flowers, take a walk in the sun (preferably at the beach) in her honor.  Donations may be directed to the charity of the giver’s choice. To offer the family online condolences please visit

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