Conversations with Joan Herrmann

October 18, 2019

In early December of 2017, a chef friend called me and during our conversation, it somehow came up that we should figure out a way to feed families in need during the holidays. I’m not even sure how we got on the topic, we were probably joking about it, but that discussion got me thinking that ...

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We live in a fast paced world, seldom taking the time to catch our breath. Add to the general stress of life, a significant event such as losing a loved one, getting fired from a job, going through a divorce, or another difficult situation, and you have a recipe for emotional overload. Emotional ...

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What makes happy people happy? Why is someone who goes through a tragedy or lives in a horrible situation happy, while others who seem to have it all are miserable? I believe that true and lasting happiness is being able to tap into a deep state of peace and well-being within us, that doesn’t ...

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Joan touches upon something very dear to my heart: how we treat our parents and seniors in our lives. I made a decision 20 years before my mother’s death never to get frustrated with her—never again, I should say. This is a wonderful reminder to pay attention to older individuals around ...

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Ok, so every once in a while, I really, really, really…really-really-really feel Joan’s column. In a generic sense, this very thing happened in my life last week. Notice I didn’t say “happened to me.” I had an incident last week where I did rely on my professional instincts as a journalist. At ...

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I think we all struggle, at times, to understand who is a true friend. We are in a time where judgment just plain stinks. But, you have to have a standard. And, that requires judgment. That judgment is about protection, it’s about who may hurt you and who you can discern will not. Age old question, ...

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This week, Joan talks about her choice, and there’s been at least one big one, since her divorce seven years ago. I decided it was best to let her talk, no questions needed. Joan: According to Terry Orbuch, author of Finding Love Again, there are more than 100 million single adults in the United ...

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Joan: “You’re fat!” “You’re stupid!” “You don’t have the right education!” “You’ll never be able to get the promotion!” “No man will ever want you!” “You’re old!” “She doesn’t like you!” “You’re ugly!” “You can’t do anything right!” Do any of these words sound familiar? While most people would ...

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Old memories can be wonderful, and, they can be difficult. Remembering a old rough relationship with a family member can remind us of how good we have it currently. Joan talks about an old TV show reminded her of times past and how much better her life is now. Joan: One of my friends stopped by ...

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Intuition can be a tricky thing, mostly because we sometimes push it aside. Afterall, it warns us…and maybe we don’t want to hear that warning. Joan had an experience many of us have had: pushing past her intuition only to learn her gut was right all along. Joan: Throughout the last decade, my ...

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Joan: Do you have one person in your life that really irks you? No matter what you say or do, this person has the ability to totally ruin your day, or in some cases, your month, year, and even life! I know I do. Q. Wow, someone got to you. Sorry to hear that Joan. But you’re not alone. I think ...

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Never look down on anybody unless you’re helping him up. ~Jesse Jackson While we are all a part of a bigger picture, sometimes we feel small and lonely or even less than another who may boast about accomplishments. Joan talks about turning your small part in this universe into a beautiful big ...

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Most of us set goals for ourselves, but more often than not, we do it during the beginning of the year in the spirit of starting anew. What about if we take the ‘lazy, hazy days of summer’ to re-energize those goals? Joan gives us great tips to move forward on any goal with positive ...

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There are times when all of us feel a bit down or, not right, frankly. Joan has advice for those times. Joan: I am a firm believer that when you are going through a difficult situation or experiencing pain, one of the best ways to promote healing is to help another person. Taking the focus ...

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We so often hear we need to shun negativity and invite positivity. The idea never gets old, so this week, Joan discusses another way to keep our lives positive. Joan: I recently made a presentation in which I talked about the importance of eliminating negative voices – our own and those from ...

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July 9 marks the 10th anniversary of the Change Your Attitude…Change Your Life brand and radio show. For 10 years, 120 months, 522 weeks, 3,652 days, 87,600 hours, 5,258,880 minutes, and 315,567,360 seconds, I have worked tirelessly to create a platform that could educate, inspire and motivate ...

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Who knew that being great was all about how you make others feel? If you think about it, though, that’s exactly what greatness is. Let’s ponder this with Joan. Joan: I recently heard about the passing of a man to whom I was introduced a few years ago. We met when I had just created the CYACYL ...

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Just those words have so much meaning. This week, Joan means them personally and in such a way as to begin to live in the present and not in the past, as she so often suggests. Think the best of others and that is what you could receive. Joan: Recently, I received a phone call from a business ...

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It’s hard to figure out just how she does it, but Joan tends to have this knack of saying just what I need to hear, right when I need to hear it. It’s kizmet, or something like that. Joan talks about loving yourself this week, something we could all be a bit better at…read on and feel the ...

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Every year, when baseball season comes around, I’m very happy. I’m happy because I know my Yankees could win 90 to 100 games out of the 162 game season, and maybe even win the 11 post season games necessary to win the World Series. As a matter of fact, famed Yankee shortstop Derek Jeter would ...

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This upcoming month (June 6 to be exact), I turn 56 years old. 56 YEARS OLD! Like most other 50-something-year-old individual, I’m not sure how this happened – it feels like a blink of an eye. One day I’m a college girl, the next a young mother, and now more than one half a century old. How can I ...

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A former neighbor of mine called out to me one day (many moons ago) as I was doing a power walk past his house. “Hey, trying to get your youth back?” He was a real jokester. I stopped for a little conversation. My children, who were quite little at the time, were playing in the backyard under ...

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Joan: When I was a young girl, like many other girls, I dreamed about what my life would be like. College … career … marriage … children … a house … a dog … and a big, loving family surrounding me. That was my dream. While some of it came true, many of my expectations were shattered, and my life ...

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If you think saying you’re sorry is a sign of weakness, then think again. It’s a lot like forgiveness…it’s often more for you than for the other person. Consider Joan’s thoughts on this human offering and work your personal healing. Joan: Every sappy romantic can recall that moment in the movie ...

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Staying stuck, that’s the scariest thing for many people. Joan discusses how gulping and moving forward is not as terrifying as it seems, especially when others have done so with great success. Joan: Each time we face our fear, we gain strength, courage, and confidence in the doing. Do you ...

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You’re not alone if you occasionally feel like you fade into the background. For Joan, it’s feeling like vanilla ice cream. Translation: you’re going along in life, doing okay, making progress, getting things done, and you suddenly realize you can do more. Joan recently realized for her, just ...

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We’re at a happy time of year: spring, Easter, Passover...when life is resurrected. We see it all around us. Little green shoots coming out of the ground, trees with white and pink blooming flowers, bright yellow bushes and patches of impromptu purple and yellow irises on sporadic patches of grass.

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Some people, such as those in the military, think about mental toughness all the time, even make a career of it. Others never really think about it all, but maybe don’t have to because it’s within them all the time. Joan talks about her mental toughness as she went through what most consider the ...

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Researchers say we spend nearly half of our waking hours thinking about the past or the future. That means we’re not thinking about the present. That can cause us to lose out on an opportunity right in front of us. This week, Joan talks about how she realized she needed to move on from something ...

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Maybe when you were young, you felt as though you could accomplish anything. But what happens as we mature? What happens when those voices get in your head, the voices that develop over time? Joan talks about how she has handled that, especially in the revitalized second half of her life. Joan: ...

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