We often think that others are responsible for making us feel guilty. This is not true.

Others may try to manipulate us by saying certain things to make us feel guilty and at times they are very effective in causing us self doubt. However, the reason that manipulators are able to make us feel guilty is that a part of us agree with their message and the doubt already exists in our head.

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Codependency is usually associated with the term “enabling.”

Enabling is doing something for someone that they can or should be doing for themselves. It is taking responsibility for others. I often hear people say “I like helping others”, “It makes me feel good,” and “I am a good person.” Many people derive their sense of ...

Once upon a time, a pious Jew was traveling through the countryside in Eastern Europe. He came to a shtetl where the local schochet (ritual slaughterer) had just taken ill. The town butcher had no one to do the slaughtering and was desperate when he bumped into the visitor. The traveler looked pious and G‑d fearing (perhaps he wore a black hat and a beard) so the butcher ...

Retirement means different things to different people.

You might think of it as a standing tee time at Echo Lake Country Club, while your neighbor would like to hop on a six-month cruise around the world. Many millennials and younger professionals aren’t thinking about retirement in that traditional sense at all, as they face the burdens of student loan debt and an uncertain future ...