The Seasoned Citizen

March 4, 2020

By the time I was seven I couldn’t get enough of the Nancy Drew books by Carolyn Keene (Carolyn Keene may have been an amalgam of many writers, but so what…it worked!).  Nancy was my heroine.  A pretty high school teenager who not only drove her own car but solved mysteries as well.  She had a ...

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We could never understand why my mother-in-law, Jennie, had so many rolls of toilet paper stashed in her closet.  We always laughed at why Grandma needed to stock-pile that particular item.   Did she think that someday there might be a shortage?...and then recently I had an epiphany.   Jennie’s ...

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I have three children, two by choice and one by choice of the heart.  Whenever anyone asks which one of my kids is adopted, I answer, “I’ve forgotten”, because it makes absolutely no difference.  A child is a child and whether it becomes yours by nature or nurture doesn’t matter at all.  Love ...

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Did you ever feel that all you wanted was to have a good cry, but the tears wouldn’t come; that the sadness was piling up behind your eyes, inside your chest, down to your finger tips with no relief in sight; that you just wanted to run and run not only away from yourself, but from the fears and ...

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Back in the 1950s and 60s every woman yearned to own a mink stole.  Watch some of the old TV shows like Perry Mason and every well-dressed woman is wearing mink. My mother-in-law, Jenny, wanted to give me something special for my 25th birthday, so she offered to buy me a stole.  As an animal ...

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The first cat to ever own us was called Fluffy. Baptized by our four year old daughter, Ilene, it was one of many stereotypical feline names we used over the years.  Ilene saw Fluffy in a pet shop window and it was love at first sight.  To me he looked like a skunk because of a white stripe running ...

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At 5 p.m. on December 31 the drain in my bathroom sink got stuck. Couldn’t do it on the 30th or wait until January 2nd…no…it chose New Year’s Eve (when no one is available) to stop working. Must have been year end pixies because one minute it was fine and the next flattened against the sink, ...

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My friend Harry, who lives in Florida, has done it again.  He keeps Pyewacket and Stanley supplied with enough treats to last at least a year!   Harry and Roz always had dogs, but through me Harry has become a cat person.  Not only does he send snacks, he has beguiled them with more toys than ...

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My friend, Dorothy, is a retired Westchester politician whose brilliance is equaled by her kindness, helpfulness, and concern for the human race. She is as active as a Seasoned Citizen as she was in her earlier life. I recently wrote an article requesting that governor Cuomo seriously consider ...

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Vik was one-year old on November 10.  She, if you remember, is the daughter of my grandson Chris and my wonderful granddaughter, Silvia, his wife, which makes Vik Amer-Asian, a combination of Hong Kong and New Jersey! It’s time like these that makes us ponder how quickly pass the years.  Did you ...

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My computer room window faces a thick wooded area where day by day I can see the seasons change.  They seem to run into each other faster lately, spring to summer, summer to fall, fall to winter, and back again.   Spring is, of course, my favorite.  The sun has a special glow and the budding ...

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I recently heard that New York State wants to eliminate bail for so called “low crimes.” Bail, as I understand it, is a concrete promise to come back and face one’s accusers; a way to keep track of people suspected of wrong doing.  True, one is innocent until proven guilty, but isn’t bail a way of ...

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OK Governor Cuomo… I recently wrote an entire column of how you were wrongly accused of being a bigot. Even though we disagree  on many political issues, I know you are an even handed man and are doing your best to serve New York. Well, right now I need a favor, not because I went to bat for you ...

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My sister Nelle was shopping at one of her favorite discount stores recently.  One of Nelle’s mantras is “When the going gets tough, the tough go shopping”…even if it isn’t tough she enjoys puttering around and finding clothing she likes, taking them home for a second look, and bringing them back ...

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One of the most important tenets of our country is freedom of speech.  I wrote once about using the ‘F’ word in context, not derisively, and how, even then it shocked many people. Well, the same thing just happened to Governor Andrew Cuomo, who, in decrying discrimination, used the ‘N’ word also in ...

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My daughter, Lisa, is coming to visit me tomorrow. Curtis, (the son-in-law I consider my lifeline) is away with Ilene because this is her birthday weekend. They take a cabin in the woods with no telephone access available, enjoy hiking with their dog, and free themselves from everyday mundane ...

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Queen Elizabeth and I have something very special in common: “Midsomer Murders.”   “Midsomer Murders” is a weekly British detective series that has run for 20 years…hopefully it’s still going strong.  For about 13 seasons it starred John Nettles as Tom Barnaby, a very convincing chief detective ...

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Halloween…you either absolutely love it or absolutely hate it.  It’s a time when in the old religion (nature), it is the start of the new year…a time to dress up as you would like others to see you; a time to celebrate the old and anticipate the new; a time to dance in the moonlight and feel the ...

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I am always saddened when the first spell of autumn surrounds me.  The heat of summer lessens and we ready ourselves for the chill of yet another winter.  Leaves blaze for a moment in glorious shades of red and yellow and  orange, only to crumble under our feet, drab and colorless. I think we ...

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Although we have never met, I believe I know Bruce Apar (Bruce the Blog) very well.  His description of a little boy facing the everyday difficulties of growing up without his mother is both touching and revealing.  Opening his heart and allowing us, his readers, the privilege of knowing his inner ...

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I value my privacy.  Because of this I do not subscribe to any of the internet’s social media, but that doesn’t protect me from prying eyes.  Having served on many committees, chaired fundraisers, write this column and appeared at public events, my life no longer belongs to me alone.

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The demise of daily newspapers makes me very sad, but perhaps the Weekly News in print will be the ‘keeper of the flame’!  As the dailies become thinner and thinner I see the weeklies becoming more robust, filled with not only local items but touching on the national as well.  With an important ...

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I have never shopped at a Walmart store and I know nothing about them except for a commercial that recently caught my eye. Unlike the ad for Ikea, where a shopper believes she has gotten away without paying, Walmart’s commercial had the shoppers questioning the salesperson to make sure she charged ...

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On August 17, 1954, we were in Nassau, the Bahamas, an old married couple of 2 days!  We had flown on BOAC (British Airways), a grand plane that had a lovely bar/café on its second level. I was 18 and it was my first flight ever. I’m remembering again the fabulous moon on that wonderful night…it ...

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My grandson, Chris, his wife Silvia, and their baby daughter Vik, were visiting the other day when my podiatrist, Dr. Harry Prywes, came to call.  Dr. Prywes has a practice in Westchester but makes house calls as well.  This opened up a whole discussion between Chris and myself about why family ...

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Pyewacket and Stanley, my feline family, join our editor’s cat, Chief, in cheering the New York law banning cat de-clawing.   We human beings feel we have the right to manipulate animals to suit our tastes.  I find it appalling!  Docking dogs’ tails, caging them when we’re not home, styling ...

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Vanessa at CVS in Somers; Mike at Inogen; Chester at UPS; Susan and Mary at Community Pharmacy in Brewster; any representative at Chewy.com. All of the above names and companies have something very important in common: they care about people.   In this day and age when everything is done ...

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I’m reading a book by J. K. Rowling, “The Casual Vacancy,” written after she was accepted as a phenomenal writer. I had resisted “Harry Potter” for years, but when I finally succumbed I not only read all seven books, I still listen to them on audio-books…over and over and over.  Jim Dale won a ...

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Many years ago, a popular magazine, “The Reader’s Digest,” ran an article every month on “My Most Unforgettable Character.”  In the three years since my husband Jason died, I have discovered many unforgettable people who make my life livable. Jason and I were inseparable.  From the day we ...

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Rogers and Hammerstein said it best in South Pacific:  “You’ve got to be taught to be afraid of people whose eyes are oddly made and people whose skin is a different shade, you’ve got to be carefully taught.  You’ve got to be taught before it’s too late, before you are six or seven or eight, to ...

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