The Seasoned Citizen

December 11, 2018

I remember dancing. Jason held me in his arms and we moved with the music, kind of like making love in public (with our clothes on)! I put my head on his shoulder, he would whisper in my ear; it was loving and so romantic. We’d do the fox Trot, the Waltz, Rhumba, Tango, always touching one another.

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It seems the more we find the more we give away.  Computerizing everything makes life easier, for sure, but it also makes us more vulnerable.  We give up anonymity for comfort and individuality for acceptance.  “Smart” new technological items worm their way into our lives and have the ability to ...

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My daughter, Lisa, is having the time of her life.  Aside from her long hours as a teacher of emotionally and physically challenged children, she has, as you know, become a grandmother twice in the last few months.  Her weekends and evenings are now filled with fixing dinners for the newest parents ...

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H.L. Mencken said, “Writing is easy…you just sit down in front of a typewriter and open a vein!!” That’s exactly how I felt recently. As you know from my last column, I’ve been through the wringer these past few weeks and my muse seemed to have deserted me. Then something wonderful happened. I ...

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I caught a cold.  For years I have tried to avoid catching cold by “air kissing” friends and staying away from sniffling people. There is a reason for my being so diligent.  Everybody has something and my “Achilles’ heel” is bronchiectasis (look it up in an old fashioned dictionary…not on ...

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In today’s electronic world we give everything a “special name” to make whatever it is palatable, eg. Social Media. Sounds good, makes one feel as if he/she is a part of some giant force and guess what…it may be media but it sure “ain’t” social! Experts are now studying this phenomena and ...

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As we age, many of us become frightened, especially if we are alone.  Every little pain or ache becomes exacerbated because we have no one to share our feelings with, to reassure us, to ground us.   There is nothing more important to a human being than having the ability to confide in another ...

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Remember the old adage, “You can’t fight City Hall”?  Well, you can; we did and we won!! After claiming they were not at fault, the New Jersey Water Company has now admitted they made a big mistake by charging my grandson $700, $150, $120, and perhaps even more. We are now reviewing all the ...

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According to ancient lore, Halloween, or All Hallow’s Eve, is when the barrier between those on Earth and those who have gone on ahead, is at its most vulnerable.  If we listen hard enough, we might even hear celestial music and the voices of our loved ones. We’re supposed to dress as we wish to ...

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You may remember that a few weeks ago we talked about starting a Care Corps. In fact, I was delighted to receive several responses from prospective volunteers. It proves to me that the experts are right: as we grow older social interaction is necessary for well being.  So I’ve come up with a ...

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Burt Reynolds was a man’s man and a woman’s dream man!   In all the articles I’ve read, and all the remembrances on television, they have omitted two things in his life that he would have definitely included.   The first is a film I’ve always loved because he played against “type”:  “Starting ...

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My grandson and his wife recently bought a house in the New Jersey town where he grew up. Having lived in New York City as renters, moving to the suburbs and being responsible for property and all that goes with it, is pretty daunting.   They’ve been in since May, but even before then, due to one ...

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It seems to me that we have gone from the warmth of the 20th century to the cold of the 21st. I’m not talking about wars or politics, but books and telephones and newspapers and board games as opposed to texting and emailing and electronic games and the anonymity of the computer itself.

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Once upon a time, when the tropical heat of summer was becoming a memory, but before autumn’s fingers reached out to touch the land, a murmuring began in the forest. From tree to tree and leaf to leaf the same haunting words were tossed upon the wind and whispered to the breeze: “He Who Comes Once ...

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Is fashion becoming so important today that we must turn our 6 to 12 year olds into fashionistas? I recently read an article about going back to school “in style,” stating the many ways your elementary and middle school students can return to the halls of academia dressed in the “accepted ...

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The other night my daughter, Ilene, and I watched “The Women,” a 1939 film version of Clare Boothe’s hit Broadway show. I was delighted and amused and she was completely appalled.  Having seen the movie many times before, I was aware of the tremendous innovations initiated by director George ...

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Why do certain moments stay in your memory forever, especially when you can’t find a reason for remembering them?   I see myself sitting in Jason’s room at his mother’s house. I’m wearing a beautiful peau de soie black coat dress and Jay is buttoning his shirt.  We were engaged then and still ...

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My daughter, Lisa, said “mama” at the age of five months. (If there hadn’t been witnesses, no one would ever believe me.)  She walked at nine months and by the time she was a year old spoke in intelligible sentences and was even analytical. To celebrate her first birthday we took her to a local ...

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For many years now I have been haunted by a voice pleading through a hospital room  door.  I could tell it was a rather elderly Seasoned Citizen, calling for “someone, anyone,” to her bedside.  I questioned the nurses and they cautioned me not to interfere. “She has dementia,” they said, “She’s ...

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We take so much for granted.  Stocked shelves in grocery stores, full pumps at the gas station, electricity (lights, heat, air conditioning, television), running water (to quench thirst, to shower in, to wash dishes).   This morning I tried to brush my teeth and found just a trickle of H2O ...

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A number of states have now made cannabis legal for both medicinal and recreational use, but 50 years ago it was completely verboten. At that time my next door neighbor was an avant-garde artist, a single mother, and a good friend. We lived on the second floor of a two-story garden apartment ...

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The latest fiasco I’ve read about is the renaming of the “Laura Ingalls Wilder Award” to the “Children’s Literature Legacy Award.” Why? Because the renowned author of Little House On The Prairie portrayed Native Americans (American Indians) in stereotypical language. I must inject a personal ...

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We’ve all had the experience of being “butt-dialed,” a euphemism for your pocket-held cell phone accidentally pressing someone else’s number. My granddaughter, Shanna, has unknowingly called me from parties at 2 a.m. I’ve enjoyed listening in on many of her celebrations and sometimes even joined in ...

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My definition of magic is something that has not yet been explained. Still, sometimes we experience phenomena that defy explanation. Here are a few that have occurred in my life. Many years ago, when my daughter Lisa was about 5 years old, we were staring out of the window on a very cold and ...

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I met Jason when I was 17 and he, 23. I was entering my senior year in college (don’t ask) and he was working in his father’s business. He was sensitive, a music lover and intellectually gifted. His avocation was wood carving and he created beautiful pieces of art by, as he said (quoting ...

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After living in Manhattan for the last few years, my grandson, Chris, and my wonderful grand-daughter-in-law, Silvia, have decided to move back to his hometown of Westfield, N.J. Silvia has just returned from a four-day visit with her parents in Hong Kong and they are bunking with my daughter, ...

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My father crossed the River Styx in his 92nd year. He did not go gentle into that good night, but after diagnosing his own problem, fought to keep his promise to my mother and not leave her alone after nearly 70 years. He was a lateral thinker and lucid to his last breath.   My parents were very ...

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When I was a little girl and even when my children were young, we had four distinct seasons: autumn, winter, spring and summer. We knew it was autumn because red and yellow leaves covered the ground and we’d crunch our way to school, enjoying the snap and crackle of crispness under our saddle ...

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I just watched the 1943 movie, “Irving Berlin’s This Is the Army.” It starred our former president, Ronald Reagan, as the son of a World War I veteran who following in his father’s footsteps, joined up and put on shows in World War II for and about the armed forces. It was kitschy and ...

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Once upon a time, before computers and texting and email and Facebook, we had telephones with dials. They spun around and connected us with the live voice of whomever we were calling. That’s what telephones were used for: talking to other people. They had an ear piece and a mouth piece and we made ...

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