The Seasoned Citizen

March 20, 2019

My son-in-law and I do not always agree politically. If we didn’t see eye-to-eye on ice cream flavors or music or schools of art or the virtues of being left brained or right brained we could debate the subject for hours without animosity creeping in to sabotage our conversation.   The three ...

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This is a very sad column to write. One of our reader/writer family members has suffered a terrible loss. Her 31 year old son, who had been “clean” for 10 months, was seduced by a “friend” to try an illegal substance “one more time;” it took his life. Children are not supposed to die before ...

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You guys are really the cat’s meow!  You have proven to me that you truly care about each other.  After the “Addictions” acrostic appeared another reader, Curtis St. John, was so moved that he decided to write a healing poem to show the author how much he empathized.  This is exactly what I have ...

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Back in the 20th Century when my producer, Michael Simone, and I had the Westchester Playhouse in Yonkers, many acting luminaries graced our stage.  One of these was the comedian Milton Berle.  There are still those who remember his weekly show in the early days of television.  Families fortunate ...

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Addiction to drugs, legal or illegal, has become a physical, psychological, and political problem in not only our country, but throughout the world. When doctors prescribe an opiate to alleviate pain they are practicing the Hippocratic Oath of not allowing people to suffer.  Pain is hard to ...

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I’ve been pigging out lately on “Cinderella” movies: Maid In Manhattan, Pretty Woman, Ever After, Working Girl, Pride and Prejudice; and indulging in my secret vice of well written, beautifully acted, possible but improbable fairy tales.  My two favorite lines are ‘Once upon a time’ and ‘They lived ...

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“The Secret Garden” is a magical tale written in 1911 by Frances Hodgson Burnett.   It tells the story of a pampered young English girl who, after living all her life in India, loses her parents and is sent to live with an unknown and mysterious uncle in a large, gloomy house in England.  There she ...

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It makes me so happy to hear from my readers.  Writers send thoughts out into the world but never really know if anyone is reading them….that’s why feedback is so gratifying! I recently wrote an article about exercising our brains and asked you all to do so by writing acrostics.  One reader, ...

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At one time in his life my husband, Jason, was the right hand man to a “baron of industry”.  His employer owned and operated many corporations in numerous countries but his personal office was located in a section of his private residence, a very prestigious New York City penthouse apartment.

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It was a Saturday before Christmas and, after feeding Pyewacket and Stanley (my cats) at 6 a.m., I decided to go back to bed and sleep in.  I had nothing on my calendar and before I knew it, it was 11:30 a.m. and my doorbell was ringing.  Sleepy eyed, I opened the door to find Santa Claus, ...

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We wish all our friends happiness in the new year. We picture a baby as the embodiment of the coming year and a really old Seasoned Citizen as the symbol of the last 12 months.  Each one of us has the opportunity, according to these icons, to shed the past and start the future with the innocence of ...

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Lord and Taylor is closing its flagship store in Manhattan…how sad! In the last few decades we have lost other wonderful retailers:  Bonwit Teller, Best and Co., B. Altman, Milgrim’s, Tailored Woman, De Pinna.  Each had staffs of knowledgeable sales personnel, always ready to help you find the ...

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I remember dancing. Jason held me in his arms and we moved with the music, kind of like making love in public (with our clothes on)! I put my head on his shoulder, he would whisper in my ear; it was loving and so romantic. We’d do the fox Trot, the Waltz, Rhumba, Tango, always touching one another.

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It seems the more we find the more we give away.  Computerizing everything makes life easier, for sure, but it also makes us more vulnerable.  We give up anonymity for comfort and individuality for acceptance.  “Smart” new technological items worm their way into our lives and have the ability to ...

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My daughter, Lisa, is having the time of her life.  Aside from her long hours as a teacher of emotionally and physically challenged children, she has, as you know, become a grandmother twice in the last few months.  Her weekends and evenings are now filled with fixing dinners for the newest parents ...

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H.L. Mencken said, “Writing is easy…you just sit down in front of a typewriter and open a vein!!” That’s exactly how I felt recently. As you know from my last column, I’ve been through the wringer these past few weeks and my muse seemed to have deserted me. Then something wonderful happened. I ...

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I caught a cold.  For years I have tried to avoid catching cold by “air kissing” friends and staying away from sniffling people. There is a reason for my being so diligent.  Everybody has something and my “Achilles’ heel” is bronchiectasis (look it up in an old fashioned dictionary…not on ...

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In today’s electronic world we give everything a “special name” to make whatever it is palatable, eg. Social Media. Sounds good, makes one feel as if he/she is a part of some giant force and guess what…it may be media but it sure “ain’t” social! Experts are now studying this phenomena and ...

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As we age, many of us become frightened, especially if we are alone.  Every little pain or ache becomes exacerbated because we have no one to share our feelings with, to reassure us, to ground us.   There is nothing more important to a human being than having the ability to confide in another ...

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Remember the old adage, “You can’t fight City Hall”?  Well, you can; we did and we won!! After claiming they were not at fault, the New Jersey Water Company has now admitted they made a big mistake by charging my grandson $700, $150, $120, and perhaps even more. We are now reviewing all the ...

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According to ancient lore, Halloween, or All Hallow’s Eve, is when the barrier between those on Earth and those who have gone on ahead, is at its most vulnerable.  If we listen hard enough, we might even hear celestial music and the voices of our loved ones. We’re supposed to dress as we wish to ...

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You may remember that a few weeks ago we talked about starting a Care Corps. In fact, I was delighted to receive several responses from prospective volunteers. It proves to me that the experts are right: as we grow older social interaction is necessary for well being.  So I’ve come up with a ...

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Burt Reynolds was a man’s man and a woman’s dream man!   In all the articles I’ve read, and all the remembrances on television, they have omitted two things in his life that he would have definitely included.   The first is a film I’ve always loved because he played against “type”:  “Starting ...

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My grandson and his wife recently bought a house in the New Jersey town where he grew up. Having lived in New York City as renters, moving to the suburbs and being responsible for property and all that goes with it, is pretty daunting.   They’ve been in since May, but even before then, due to one ...

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It seems to me that we have gone from the warmth of the 20th century to the cold of the 21st. I’m not talking about wars or politics, but books and telephones and newspapers and board games as opposed to texting and emailing and electronic games and the anonymity of the computer itself.

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Once upon a time, when the tropical heat of summer was becoming a memory, but before autumn’s fingers reached out to touch the land, a murmuring began in the forest. From tree to tree and leaf to leaf the same haunting words were tossed upon the wind and whispered to the breeze: “He Who Comes Once ...

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Is fashion becoming so important today that we must turn our 6 to 12 year olds into fashionistas? I recently read an article about going back to school “in style,” stating the many ways your elementary and middle school students can return to the halls of academia dressed in the “accepted ...

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The other night my daughter, Ilene, and I watched “The Women,” a 1939 film version of Clare Boothe’s hit Broadway show. I was delighted and amused and she was completely appalled.  Having seen the movie many times before, I was aware of the tremendous innovations initiated by director George ...

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Why do certain moments stay in your memory forever, especially when you can’t find a reason for remembering them?   I see myself sitting in Jason’s room at his mother’s house. I’m wearing a beautiful peau de soie black coat dress and Jay is buttoning his shirt.  We were engaged then and still ...

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My daughter, Lisa, said “mama” at the age of five months. (If there hadn’t been witnesses, no one would ever believe me.)  She walked at nine months and by the time she was a year old spoke in intelligible sentences and was even analytical. To celebrate her first birthday we took her to a local ...

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