The Seasoned Citizen

Old Friends

In the early years of our marriage, we lived in a community of co-op garden apartments and friendships were forged there that lasted for many, many years. Our two best friends, Roz and Harry, had moved to New York from Rhode Island and had a daughter, Francine, who went to grade school with our second daughter, Ilene. Roz and I took part in many school activities and Harry and Jason really enjoyed each other’s company.

Weekends were the most fun. Harry was a “chef” by avocation, and introduced us to something, that in later years, became extremely popular—barbecued chicken wings. I think he also did chicken legs, but whatever he put into that glaze was scrumptious! We’d each cook something special, go somewhere the kids could play, relax and eat to our hearts’ content. Since we were all animal lovers, we always had cats and dogs who nibbled on the leftovers.

Our foursome lasted for a number of years and then Roz and Harry moved to Florida. As often happens, our lives took different directions, so we weren’t able to visit more than a very few times. We did stay in touch by phone though, and remained as close as ever. I might not speak to Rozzie for a month, but when we did make contact, we just continued out last conversation. Miles may intervene, but love is constant and our friendship never waned.

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Harry and Roz were very much in love and when he lost her about three years ago, Jason and I felt his pain and anguish. When Jason died last year, Harry was there by letter and phone to figuratively hold my hand and say the right things.

Harry has now taken up the new hobby of coloring and has constructed fabulous pictures of our families, which he sends me periodically. I understand he has his Rozzie enshrined throughout their home, backgrounds of hearts and flowers by Harry, now artist rather than chef!

Harry and I have shared joy, friendship, sorrow and loss, and I wished he lived next door so I could give him a great big thank you hug for always raising my spirits.

True friendship never dies. The four of us are still together savoring not only those fabulous chicken wings, but the laughter, joy, and love that will dwell in our hearts forever.

Adrienne can be reached at AKL.seasonedcitizen@gmail.com.

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