Talk, Move, Play, Write: Talking with Teens about Loss

a6a50377db7d610b4e72_Soccer-ball-300x224.jpg
4989e65975bfab64ade4_Parachute.jpg
a6a50377db7d610b4e72_Soccer-ball-300x224.jpg

Last year we met with about 60 teens from Holy Trinity CYO program. We left feeling inspired and full of hope about their resilience and ability to cope with tough times.These are some of the losses and tough times they named:

  • My dad died
  • My parents divorced
  • My uncle committed suicide
  • Both my grandparents died
  • My best friend moved away
  • My sister died
  • My grandmother died
  • My parents separated
  • I have no memory of my family being happy
  • My friends stopped being my friends
  • I have an eating disorder and am depressed
  • I moved here and left my friends behind
  • I got an F on my test.

And then this is what they said they do when dealing with a loss or a tough time:

  • Talk to my friends
  • Talk to my family
  • Talk to my brother, sister, cousin, grandparent, coach….
  • Listen to music
  • Play basketball
  • Write about it
  • Exercise

Exactly! Talk, move, play, write…

Sign Up for E-News

  • Talk to a friend, family member or trusted adult instead of isolating yourself.
  • Listen to music, write music, play music. Or paint, draw, sculpt, create. The arts have the power to soothe, transform, heal and give hope. They provide a vehicle for expressing our emotions and thoughts in healthy ways.
  • Getting physical by playing ball, going for a walk or run, riding a bike, or doing sports help us discharge the kinetic energy in our bodies that accompanies difficult emotions. By discharging the energy in health ways, we can then feel and express our feelings more easily.  This helps us cope.
  • Write in a journal, write a letter to the person you miss or hate or love, write poetry, a short story or your memoir. Get it out and write it down.

We ended by asking ”is resilience something you have to born with or can it be learned? “You can learn it they said!” they said. And they are right.

So if you thought you either had to be born resilient to be resilient, listen to these kids! Talk, move, play, write. Ask for help. Get support. Learn about available resources.

Contact us at Imagine for more ideas, support or other resources. 908-264-3100 info@imaginenj.org

Imagine is a free year-round children’s grief support center that serves NJ children age 3-18 and young adults 18-30 who are grieving the death of a parent or sibling, or who are living with a parent of sibling with a life-altering illness. Imagine also provides grief education and training for thousands of teachers, parents, coaches, youth and other adults annually.  

 

 

The opinions expressed herein are the writer's alone, and do not reflect the opinions of TAPinto.net or anyone who works for TAPinto.net. TAPinto.net is not responsible for the accuracy of any of the information supplied by the writer.

TAP Into Another Town's News:

You May Also Be Interested In

Sign Up for E-News

Westfield

Fanwood Celebrates 50th Anniversary of Mobile Meals of Westfield

April 22, 2018

FANWOOD, NJ  — At the Fanwood Borough Council meeting on Monday, April 16, Mayor Colleen Mahr read a resolution acknowledging Mobile Meals' 50th anniversary and presented it to volunteers Nancy Otchy and Josephine Walsh.

Mobile Meals, based in Westfield, delivers meals to thousands of area residents every day. The organization passed its one millionth meal delivery several ...

2018 Municipal Budget is on Collision Course with Principles of Financial Soundness & Stability

April 18, 2018

Having chaired the town council’s finance committee in the recent past, I appreciate the hard work that goes into developing a municipal budget for a town as large and dynamic as Westfield. But as I have expressed publicly and also to the mayor and my council colleagues, I do not support the adoption of Westfield’s 2018 municipal budget. Although the budget contains much that I ...

Upcoming Events

Tue, April 24, 4:00 PM

Westfield Memorial Library, Westfield

Westfield Memorial Library Spring Book Sale

Arts & Entertainment

Carousel_image_5307a8f625870288b3e9_best_79fa8c672d731919f994_tap_building

Tue, April 24, 7:00 PM

Westfield Municipal Building, Westfield

Westfield Town Council Meeting

Government

Tue, April 24, 7:30 PM

Westfield

Westfield Board of Education Meeting

Education

Westfield Police Blotter: Residence Burglarized & More

April 18, 2018

April 11, 2018 10:23 a.m.

Raymond Rodgers, 56, of Westfield, NJ was arrested in the area of E. Broad Street. Rodgers was arrested pursuant to an unrelated traffic investigation. Rogers was transported to Westfield Police HQ without incident. At WPD HQ, Rodgers was processed and released after posting the full bail amount ($250). Rodgers was arrested on the strength of an outstanding Westfield ...

Video: Point View's Petrides Talks AMEX, GE and Amazon Earnings, Stock Outlook

April 22, 2018

Point View Wealth Management's Managing Director and Portfolio Manager, John Petrides, live on FOX Business AM discussing several upcoming pivotal earnings and possible market reactions:

ptview.com/medias/tv-radio

​​​​For nearly 25 years, Point View Wealth Management, Inc. has been working with families in Summit and beyond, providing customized portfolio management ...

'The Sting' shimmers and shakes at Paper Mill

‘The Sting ‘slithers and shakes at Paper Mill Playhouse

By LIZ KEILL

MILLBURN, NJ – In a premiere production of “The Sting,” Harry Connick Jr. commands the Paper Mill Playhouse stage in Millburn.

Based on the sensational Paul Newman/Robert Redford film in 1973, the 1930s plot centers on a con game and gambling, sometimes on a train between New York and ...

Edison Students Participate in Beta Test of Google Augmented Reality App

Students and teachers at Edison Intermediate School participated in a recent beta test of a Google application that uses augmented reality technology to explore the inner workings of plant cells, the functions and framework of the human skeletal system, and other educational subjects.

Edison Media Specialist Andrew Cusumano arranged for a Google representative to visit the school on April 9 to ...

Get Your Home Ready for Summer Before its TOO HOT

Finally, the weather is getting warmer and you are shedding those down coats. Now is a great time to start thinking about summer and getting your home prepared. Paying attention to a few maintenance items can alleviate painful repairs later on if you wait too long. The line ahead of you will build as the summer rush starts. So, let’s not wait.

Check your roof   (hire the expert ...

Why We Keep Kosher

Why We Keep Kosher

This week's parshah, Shemini, introduces the Torah's dietary laws. Animals must chew their cud and have split hooves to be kosher, fish need fins and scales, and a list of forbidden fowl is enumerated.

To those of us in Jewish education, it is a continuing source of disappointment that so many Jews still believe the kosher laws to be outdated.

Hellenic Therapy Center

April 13, 2018

Dropping Off Our Kids At College – Learning How To Adjust

Hellenic Therapy Center

 

Whether your kid is a freshman entering college for the first time or returning back to college, there are so many emotions we experience as parents.  There are differences in a parent’s reaction to the departure of a first child, an only child or even the last child.  Feelings ...

Obituaries

Oct 21, 1944 - Apr 14, 2018
Kathleen A. Hertell passed away peacefully with family at her bedside on April 14, 2018. Loving ...
Read more

Mets Sign Patriots Pitcher Before He Can Unpack His Gear

April 20, 2018

BRIDGEWATER, NJ — The Somerset Patriots have announced that right-hand pitcher Scott Copeland’s contract has been purchased by the New York Mets.

So, instead of stretching out and getting in shape at TD Bank Ballpark, he's been sent to extended spring training at the Mets' complex in Port St. Lucie, Fla.

The 6’3” righty broke into the big leagues in ...